The way we were....

Carrie: Your girl is lovely, Hubbell.
Mr. Big: I don't get it.
Carrie: And you never did.

I’ve discussed this topic with friends before; , and yesterday when I saw the episode of Sex and the City( I mean no one claims Sex and the City is representative of women’s lives, some times it’s way over the top.. but it’s a good show …I definitely know of people who can relate to some of the story lines) . Anyway it was the episode where Carrie finds out Mr. Big has gotten engaged to his present girlfriend…
All the while Carrie used to think that the reason that Mr. Big and she didn’t get married was because Big didn’t want to get married at all, but now she realized that it was that he didn’t want to get married to HER.

I think one of the aspects of growing up is that alongside your female peers who’ve gotten married , you also see that your male friends start tying the knot, maybe people from your past, those whom you might have then voted “One with the most commitment issues” , is married to a nice girl, and you for all your hoity toity ness , are in just the same place you were five years ago , not that it’s a bad thing, but it’s just one of the changing dynamics that comes as part of growing up right now, its one thing when your girl buddies get married, but what about guy pals. And by pals ..i don’t mean just ‘pals’ (includes crushes, and higher)!!!! I now realise that guys have had to deal with old flames getting married off since time immemorial..."Oh, you poor things!!!!"


Anyway how does the episode end ..so Carrie kind off bears no grudge against Big and quotes lines from the movie “The way we were” ,this movie is next on my netflix queue (supposed to be one of the best romantic movies ever, read the Wiki, good story!!!) .Carrie realizes that maybe it wasn’t her fault , not that it was necessarily Big’s fault ; but maybe he wasn’t the one to ‘tame’ her (i.e. get married to her, i.e there wasn’t anything wrong with her…. Big was the one with the problem!!)

Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they're supposed to run wild until they find someone -- just as wild -- to run with.

Carrie: Ladies, I'm having an epiphany. THe world is made up of two types of women. The simple girls and the Katie girls. I'm a Katie girl.

Simple girl’s fare better in love.

Katie girl refers to Barbara Streisand’s character in the movie “The way we were”

So this is what Carrie says, I have a feeling “simple” girls will resent being called simple, and well Katie types will resent being called unlucky in love!! Classifications suck, but figure out which one you think you closely match…
BTW –Simple I think means Simple to understand, simple to love…..