I was thinking about roommates …. Maybe it was because I saw a scrap from my present roommate today. a few scraps above my previous two roommates ..and yea seems like half my testimonials are from people I’ve shared living space with….i’ve been living with flat mates/roommates /housemates since ’98…close to 10 years…. Wow ….I guess roommates tend to take a place higher than acquaintances ..if for no other reason than that they are the ones you get back home to after a day spent with acquaintances… given that fact roommates past and present should ideally stay in your head even while some acquaintances may fade away in memory, .. I thought I’d undertake a project and just list the initials of people I’ve stayed with …
’98 A.M and S.P with S.S. a constant visitor :)
’99 S.M and V.J
’00 A.D and P.
’01 A.D and S.B.
’02-’03 –Parents
Spring ’04 SG
Interim ’04- darn I forget her name :)
Fall ;04 HW
End of the year ’04 –B.P,S.J., S.
Spring ’05- P.K.
Fall ’05- C.M
Spring ’06 S.G and S.G. :) and P.M.
Fall 06’ S.G. and S.D. and S.P (for a day)
Also M.N and S.R, when I first came to ttown…..
Spring ’07- P.P.!!
That’s a long list …interesting activity when you think about it …
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Thursday, March 01, 2007
Saturday, December 30, 2006
Going through a Quarter -Life crisis ...check back in two decades...
Ok so now I totally understand this ….. I realize that I’m not strange to be feeling this ..and there are enough messed up people out there for a technical term to be created about this situation ( well not technical term exactly…) don’t I always say that 25 is the new 15 ?!?!? So here goes …I seem to have been going through and am currently in the throes of a quarter life crisis …. From the wiki
Some parts of the wiki that relate to my condition are :
The quarterlife crisis is a term applied to the period of life immediately following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the ages of 21 - 29. The term is named by analogy with mid-life crisis. It is now recognised by many therapists and professionals in the mental health field. The phenomenon has been identified in Japan as 'freeter'. Abby Wilner coined the phrase in 1997 and co-authored the first book to identify this phenomenon: Quarterlife Crisis, the Unique Challenges of Life in your Twenties (Tarcher, 2001).
Some parts of the wiki that relate to my condition are :
The version of the "quarter-life crisis" proposed by Erikson, then, is very different from the one that occurs in popular culture. Indeed, the pop-culture version of the "quarter-life crisis" contains more elements of the crisis Erickson associated with adolescence, Identity vs. Role-confusion, giving credence to the theory that late-20th century life, with its bizarre mix of extreme comfort and insecurity, is then causing people to mature at a slower rate.
Wednesday, May 24, 2006
Spongy people and such like.....
So I read this article in O magazine , it dealt with the concept of ‘Sponge People’
Here’s the introduction ?!!
You’re talking to someone and suddenly feel tense , angry sad. Why is that ? You wonder. You’re spongy.
– Martha Beck
The article basically deals with “contagious psychological phenomena”, another indicator of how people who give out bad vibes ( and not necessarily by action, this article says by thought even !!) can negatively affect you , and vice versa how encouraging thoughts help you perform better .
All this information just added more dimension to what I already know of as ‘Toxic Relationships’( check out the link if you want to reacquaint yourself with the term), ideally I wouldn’t get into one, but if I did; as soon as I realize that maintaining the relationship was far more trouble than the relationship was worth I would probably end it ( does this sound selfish ? Maybe the sentence comes off sounding like that but this is what most experts suggest we ought to do) .
What really gets to me about the above mentioned relationships is that apart from the obvious emotional, spiritual and mental toll, I’ve noticed that when I interact with people who test my patience , I take sadistic pleasure in trying as much as possible ( given my nature) to get back at them, you know being obnoxious or doing things I would not do to anyone else; but just because of the way the person was behaving that was so totally asking for it , I some times have to stoop to their level , I know that by doing so I only bring myself down, and become a lesser person ,so that’s why I don’t like the effect such people have on me , basically got sponged into doing so!!!
Conversely when I meet people who are genuinely nice , or cheery or plain genuine!!! I probably would be on my best behavior and reciprocate their niceness ,or you know even if lacking any positive qualities they don’t posses negative ones I’ll still be rather civil,
I just wish there was a way I could be civil with all those negative people, whom I now realize I probably have to encounter at every stage of life!!! I swear sometimes they just drive me up the wall!!!!
Does this entry seem personal?? It isn’t!!! It’s just about a phenomenon I know truly exists!!!!!
Here’s the introduction ?!!
You’re talking to someone and suddenly feel tense , angry sad. Why is that ? You wonder. You’re spongy.
– Martha Beck
The article basically deals with “contagious psychological phenomena”, another indicator of how people who give out bad vibes ( and not necessarily by action, this article says by thought even !!) can negatively affect you , and vice versa how encouraging thoughts help you perform better .
All this information just added more dimension to what I already know of as ‘Toxic Relationships’( check out the link if you want to reacquaint yourself with the term), ideally I wouldn’t get into one, but if I did; as soon as I realize that maintaining the relationship was far more trouble than the relationship was worth I would probably end it ( does this sound selfish ? Maybe the sentence comes off sounding like that but this is what most experts suggest we ought to do) .
What really gets to me about the above mentioned relationships is that apart from the obvious emotional, spiritual and mental toll, I’ve noticed that when I interact with people who test my patience , I take sadistic pleasure in trying as much as possible ( given my nature) to get back at them, you know being obnoxious or doing things I would not do to anyone else; but just because of the way the person was behaving that was so totally asking for it , I some times have to stoop to their level , I know that by doing so I only bring myself down, and become a lesser person ,so that’s why I don’t like the effect such people have on me , basically got sponged into doing so!!!
Conversely when I meet people who are genuinely nice , or cheery or plain genuine!!! I probably would be on my best behavior and reciprocate their niceness ,or you know even if lacking any positive qualities they don’t posses negative ones I’ll still be rather civil,
I just wish there was a way I could be civil with all those negative people, whom I now realize I probably have to encounter at every stage of life!!! I swear sometimes they just drive me up the wall!!!!
Does this entry seem personal?? It isn’t!!! It’s just about a phenomenon I know truly exists!!!!!
Tuesday, April 04, 2006
full circle
Life goes on …. Just when you think you’ve wiped the slate clean along comes something or someone to remind you of the past … And what happens then? Do you revert back to the person, people thought “you were”???
...life happens, things change, people change, I’ve changed!!! But not really ……the person I am truly inside..the absent minded , but kind hearted?? Goofy gal with the long hair , bad handwriting, et al …. that’s the true me , and those who saw me like that and continue to see me like that I love you and always will (to people who really know you , nothing you do or become should come as a surprise)
Yes life has come full circle… I’ve moved on and I’m back where I belong!!!
Your friends will know you better in the first minute you meet than your acquaintances will know you in a thousand years.
-Richard Bach
...life happens, things change, people change, I’ve changed!!! But not really ……the person I am truly inside..the absent minded , but kind hearted?? Goofy gal with the long hair , bad handwriting, et al …. that’s the true me , and those who saw me like that and continue to see me like that I love you and always will (to people who really know you , nothing you do or become should come as a surprise)
Yes life has come full circle… I’ve moved on and I’m back where I belong!!!
Your friends will know you better in the first minute you meet than your acquaintances will know you in a thousand years.
-Richard Bach
Saturday, April 01, 2006
Life's Little instructions- Part 1
I thought I would pen some inspiring stuff in this blog . Life’s Little Instruction book is one of my favorite books , I have two of the series with me right now and a copy at home in India. I love inspirational reading, would say its my favorite genre of books…I’m a sucker for the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and recently bought a gift book called “A little book of hugs”, well for as long as I can ,whenever I feel like I’ll post a few instructions from the book in kind of the sequence they occur in the book.. again it’s called Life’s Little instruction Book..it’s by H. Jackson Brown Jr. ,and it’s a gem of a book :)
1. Believe in love at first sight .. ( no harm in believing!!!)
2. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams.
3. When you feel terrific notify your face.
4. Accept a breath mint if someone offers you one.
5. never apologize for being early for an appointment
6. use a travel agent. It costs no more and saves time and effort.
7. never miss an opportunity to ride a rollercoaster
8. never be the first one to break a family tradition (my dad’s favorite!!)
9. Park next to the end curb in parking lots. Your cars have half the chance of getting dented .
10. remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something.
11. take along a small gift for the host or hostess when you are a dinner guest . A book is a good choice.
12. never be photographed with a cocktail glass in your hand.
13. remember no time is ever wasted that makes two people better friends.
14. there are people who will always come up with reasons why you cant do what you want to do .ignore them .
15. when boarding a bus say “hello” to the driver, say “thank you” when you get off.
Source :Life’s little instruction Book – H. Jackson Brown Jr.
Disclaimer: I don’t necessarily follow any of the instructions in this list , but I sincerely wish I did!!!!
1. Believe in love at first sight .. ( no harm in believing!!!)
2. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams.
3. When you feel terrific notify your face.
4. Accept a breath mint if someone offers you one.
5. never apologize for being early for an appointment
6. use a travel agent. It costs no more and saves time and effort.
7. never miss an opportunity to ride a rollercoaster
8. never be the first one to break a family tradition (my dad’s favorite!!)
9. Park next to the end curb in parking lots. Your cars have half the chance of getting dented .
10. remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something.
11. take along a small gift for the host or hostess when you are a dinner guest . A book is a good choice.
12. never be photographed with a cocktail glass in your hand.
13. remember no time is ever wasted that makes two people better friends.
14. there are people who will always come up with reasons why you cant do what you want to do .ignore them .
15. when boarding a bus say “hello” to the driver, say “thank you” when you get off.
Source :Life’s little instruction Book – H. Jackson Brown Jr.
Disclaimer: I don’t necessarily follow any of the instructions in this list , but I sincerely wish I did!!!!
Sunday, March 19, 2006
100 things to do....(reworked)
100 things to do …….
I’ve always wanted to make a list like this so here goes ……have to admit I had to look at other sources for inspiration, also did go overboard at times, if you don’t dream big ….how are you going to achieve it ??
...So here’s my list of 100 things I want to do in my life ..in no particular order .hopefully should provide me some direction ,and I can strike things off the list as and when they happen ..i may have done some of things I haven’t struck of already..but I want to do them better the next time around so they remain on this list….. disclaimer this list can and will change over time!!!
The first time i wrote this list it was 2 am at night so needless to say i kind off lost track with the ctrl -c's & ctrl v's(LOL)..here is a updated list with no repetitions (i hope) and somewhat attainable!!!!
1. Visit Prince Edward Island Canada.
2. Get something published in a newspaper or a magazine. Done sometime in third grade!!!!
3. Attend an Eagles concert.
4. Drive across America from coast to coast.
5. Say "I love you".
6. Learn to play the guitar.
7. Learn to swim.
8. Actually learn to drive.
9. Visit the United States of America .Done 28th December 2004
10. Be in a movie or TV series ….I guess being an extra is alright
11. Live in New York city .
12. Climb a mountain.
13. Win an award
14. Go around the world atleast once ,took 24 yrs to do it but Done – 14th December 2005.
15. Visit Switzerland.
16. Visit Bora-Bora –Tahiti- Done 28th December 2004.
17. Prepare a five course meal.
18. Buy a house.
19. Get married.
20. Try my luck at the stock market.
21. Join a salsa or funk class
22. Go scuba diving .
23. Learn French.
24. Participate in a demonstration- Done sometime in undergrad.
25. Watch the filming of an episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show.
26. Learn to (actually learn to) use a bicycle.
27. Visit Chinatown(preferably in In San Francisco)
28. Fall in love.
29. Send a message in a bottle.
30. Plant a tree.
31. Keep a Journal Done June 2005.
32. Stay out all night partying and go to work the next day without having gone home.
33. See a tornado Done Early 2005
34. Visit Paris.
35. Teach for a living Done July 2002 –ongoing .
36. Write my will.
37. Ride on the Orient Express.
38. Own a laptop –Done February 2006.
39. Own an ipod .
40. Go up in a hot-air balloon.
41. Run in a marathon.
42. Overcome my acute attention deficit disorder.
43. Ride a horse .
44. Become a Radio Jockey (even for a day!!!).
45. Go on a cruise ship.
46. Sky dive.
47. Bungee jump.
48. Be interviewed either for Tv or a local ,national ,international paper-done May 2004.
49. Play tennis.
50. Visit Goa- Done in 2001.
51. Visit an American Indian Reservation.
52. Eat Mexican food !!!! done 2004.
53. Visit the Grand Canyon.
54. Visit an active volcano.
55. Get out of debt.
56. Ride a cable car-done February 2004.
57. Get a bachelors degree in Engineering –done 2002.
58. Get a Masters.
59. Make a road movie.
60. Learn to bartend.
61. Get paid to travel.
62. Read War and Peace.
63. Meet a long lost friend after 20 yrs!!!??!!!.
64. Get paid to say something about movies or music or both.
65. Have kids.
66. See a hurricane-done June 2005.
67. Get a dog done 1998.
68. Make a complete and utter fool of myself.-Done
69. Meet a member of the British Royal Family.
70. Visit a rainforest.
71. Meet some one famous.
72. Travel by myself –Done .
73. Stay in a hostel –done October 1998.
74. See a movie at a drive-in done in Dubai.
75. Come up with a good one-liner.
76. Become a semi-acceptable cook.
77. Visit Egypt.
78. Work as an Analyst.
79. Make a short movie.
80. Go whale watching.
81. Read One hundred years of Solitude and Love in the age of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marques .
82. Fly First Class.
83. Visit Singapore –Done March 2004.
84. Queue for something for at least 24 hours.
85. Make a difference.
86. Go on an Archeological Expedition.
87. Visit a European Castle.
88. Sleep out under the stars on a warm summer's night- Done.
89. Swim in crystal clear waters.
90. See Dolphins
91. Go back to each house I've ever lived in ??? or ok the home where i spent my childhood....
92. Learn a martial art and kick someone’s ass with it.
93. Buy a telescope.
94. Volunteer for a good cause-Done.
95. Watch a prefect sunset at sea-Done.
96. Go fishing.
97. Do something I was always afraid of doing.
98. Sleep in a hammock
99. See Snow.
100. Explore New York’s public library.
I’ve always wanted to make a list like this so here goes ……have to admit I had to look at other sources for inspiration, also did go overboard at times, if you don’t dream big ….how are you going to achieve it ??
...So here’s my list of 100 things I want to do in my life ..in no particular order .hopefully should provide me some direction ,and I can strike things off the list as and when they happen ..i may have done some of things I haven’t struck of already..but I want to do them better the next time around so they remain on this list….. disclaimer this list can and will change over time!!!
The first time i wrote this list it was 2 am at night so needless to say i kind off lost track with the ctrl -c's & ctrl v's(LOL)..here is a updated list with no repetitions (i hope) and somewhat attainable!!!!
1. Visit Prince Edward Island Canada.
2. Get something published in a newspaper or a magazine. Done sometime in third grade!!!!
3. Attend an Eagles concert.
4. Drive across America from coast to coast.
5. Say "I love you".
6. Learn to play the guitar.
7. Learn to swim.
8. Actually learn to drive.
9. Visit the United States of America .Done 28th December 2004
10. Be in a movie or TV series ….I guess being an extra is alright
11. Live in New York city .
12. Climb a mountain.
13. Win an award
14. Go around the world atleast once ,took 24 yrs to do it but Done – 14th December 2005.
15. Visit Switzerland.
16. Visit Bora-Bora –Tahiti- Done 28th December 2004.
17. Prepare a five course meal.
18. Buy a house.
19. Get married.
20. Try my luck at the stock market.
21. Join a salsa or funk class
22. Go scuba diving .
23. Learn French.
24. Participate in a demonstration- Done sometime in undergrad.
25. Watch the filming of an episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show.
26. Learn to (actually learn to) use a bicycle.
27. Visit Chinatown(preferably in In San Francisco)
28. Fall in love.
29. Send a message in a bottle.
30. Plant a tree.
31. Keep a Journal Done June 2005.
32. Stay out all night partying and go to work the next day without having gone home.
33. See a tornado Done Early 2005
34. Visit Paris.
35. Teach for a living Done July 2002 –ongoing .
36. Write my will.
37. Ride on the Orient Express.
38. Own a laptop –Done February 2006.
39. Own an ipod .
40. Go up in a hot-air balloon.
41. Run in a marathon.
42. Overcome my acute attention deficit disorder.
43. Ride a horse .
44. Become a Radio Jockey (even for a day!!!).
45. Go on a cruise ship.
46. Sky dive.
47. Bungee jump.
48. Be interviewed either for Tv or a local ,national ,international paper-done May 2004.
49. Play tennis.
50. Visit Goa- Done in 2001.
51. Visit an American Indian Reservation.
52. Eat Mexican food !!!! done 2004.
53. Visit the Grand Canyon.
54. Visit an active volcano.
55. Get out of debt.
56. Ride a cable car-done February 2004.
57. Get a bachelors degree in Engineering –done 2002.
58. Get a Masters.
59. Make a road movie.
60. Learn to bartend.
61. Get paid to travel.
62. Read War and Peace.
63. Meet a long lost friend after 20 yrs!!!??!!!.
64. Get paid to say something about movies or music or both.
65. Have kids.
66. See a hurricane-done June 2005.
67. Get a dog done 1998.
68. Make a complete and utter fool of myself.-Done
69. Meet a member of the British Royal Family.
70. Visit a rainforest.
71. Meet some one famous.
72. Travel by myself –Done .
73. Stay in a hostel –done October 1998.
74. See a movie at a drive-in done in Dubai.
75. Come up with a good one-liner.
76. Become a semi-acceptable cook.
77. Visit Egypt.
78. Work as an Analyst.
79. Make a short movie.
80. Go whale watching.
81. Read One hundred years of Solitude and Love in the age of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marques .
82. Fly First Class.
83. Visit Singapore –Done March 2004.
84. Queue for something for at least 24 hours.
85. Make a difference.
86. Go on an Archeological Expedition.
87. Visit a European Castle.
88. Sleep out under the stars on a warm summer's night- Done.
89. Swim in crystal clear waters.
90. See Dolphins
91. Go back to each house I've ever lived in ??? or ok the home where i spent my childhood....
92. Learn a martial art and kick someone’s ass with it.
93. Buy a telescope.
94. Volunteer for a good cause-Done.
95. Watch a prefect sunset at sea-Done.
96. Go fishing.
97. Do something I was always afraid of doing.
98. Sleep in a hammock
99. See Snow.
100. Explore New York’s public library.