Spongy people and such like.....

So I read this article in O magazine , it dealt with the concept of ‘Sponge People’

Here’s the introduction ?!!

You’re talking to someone and suddenly feel tense , angry sad. Why is that ? You wonder. You’re spongy.
– Martha Beck

The article basically deals with “contagious psychological phenomena”, another indicator of how people who give out bad vibes ( and not necessarily by action, this article says by thought even !!) can negatively affect you , and vice versa how encouraging thoughts help you perform better .

All this information just added more dimension to what I already know of as ‘Toxic Relationships’( check out the link if you want to reacquaint yourself with the term), ideally I wouldn’t get into one, but if I did; as soon as I realize that maintaining the relationship was far more trouble than the relationship was worth I would probably end it ( does this sound selfish ? Maybe the sentence comes off sounding like that but this is what most experts suggest we ought to do) .

What really gets to me about the above mentioned relationships is that apart from the obvious emotional, spiritual and mental toll, I’ve noticed that when I interact with people who test my patience , I take sadistic pleasure in trying as much as possible ( given my nature) to get back at them, you know being obnoxious or doing things I would not do to anyone else; but just because of the way the person was behaving that was so totally asking for it , I some times have to stoop to their level , I know that by doing so I only bring myself down, and become a lesser person ,so that’s why I don’t like the effect such people have on me , basically got sponged into doing so!!!

Conversely when I meet people who are genuinely nice , or cheery or plain genuine!!! I probably would be on my best behavior and reciprocate their niceness ,or you know even if lacking any positive qualities they don’t posses negative ones I’ll still be rather civil,
I just wish there was a way I could be civil with all those negative people, whom I now realize I probably have to encounter at every stage of life!!! I swear sometimes they just drive me up the wall!!!!

Does this entry seem personal?? It isn’t!!! It’s just about a phenomenon I know truly exists!!!!!