Big Love...

So right now one of my current favorite shows on TV is “Big Love” on HBO, the story is about this family that practices polygamy , but without sensationalizing it. It’s just a regular family drama, where you’ve got three moms instead of one.

The casting is impressive Bill Paxton from Twister , Chloe Sevigny from Boys don’t Cry and the series is produced by Tom Hanks. Anyway what got me thinking was Ok so here Bill Paxton’s character loves more than one person as his wife and well this just goes against the whole soul mate concept right!!!??!!

I mean for a long time I didn’t get how people could fall in love more than once ( “So it wasn’t love the first few times ??”) but you know it happens you love people in different ways , a spouse passes away a person remarries and its all good , but you know what if there’s more to life than all of us just being molecules that just got lucky living in a planet which coincidentally was the right distance from the sun so that we didn’t all get fried,but close enough to it so that life could evolve …. Then that would mean that a higher power exists ,and hopefully all of us wont just turn into dust when we die ( which for me is the scariest thought ever!!!!) ;which means that along with dad, mom, bro, sis, best friends , you have first wife and second wife all together in heaven for all eternity ,Then what !!!I mean how would the wives share their husband then for all eternity , shared soul mate??!!??

Ok. Ok I know you don’t have to have your wife die to get another one ( do you notice I’ve always used the case of a guy marrying again , I don’t know I guess I’ve been programmed to believe that men do such things!! AlrightI don’t believe that at all ,when I say he I mean he OR she) , people get divorced or estranged and move on and hopefully you find someone else to love ….

Then maybe all of this is scientifically explainable and The Symmetry Thesis can be applied – it just says that how much you love a person depends on how much a person loves you back….well that’s the same as saying you choose your friends based on how much you can get out of them or some such thing…… it’s just not right!!!! I found out about the Symmetry thesis from a link in Sharath’s blog.. The theory pretty much takes the magic out of everything, however the post and comments make for interesting reading ..check it out when you have the time.

Well so I believe that love can’t be quantified or measured or symmetrically induced or whatever…but I still wonder about The One…

I think Ethan Hawke got it right in Before Sunrise, the prelude to Before Sunset (if you haven’t seen this movie watch it !!! )

Ethan Hawke plays Jesse and Julie Delpy plays Celine. Here’s some dialogue from their movie long conversation….

Jesse: Do you believe in reincarnation?
Celine: Yeah. Yeah, it's interesting.
Jesse: Yeah, right. Well, most people, you know, a lot of people talk about past lives and things like that, you know? And even if they don't believe it in some specific way, you know, people have some kind of notion of an eternal soul, right?
Celine: Yeah.
Jesse: OK, well this was my thought: 50,000 years ago, there are not even a million people on the planet. 10,000 years ago, there's, like, two million people on the planet. Now there's between five and six billion people on the planet, right? Now, if we all have our own, like, individual, unique soul, right, where do they all come from? You know, are modern souls only a fraction of the original souls? 'Cause if they are, that represents a 5,000 to 1 split of each soul in the last 50,000 years, which is, like, a blip in the Earth's time. You know, so at best we're like these tiny fractions of people, you know, walking...I mean, is that why we're so scattered? You know, is that why we're all so specialized?
Celine: I don't know. Wait a minute, I'm not sure...I don't...
Jesse: Yeah, hang on, hang on. It's a, it's a totally scattered thought. It...which is kind of why it makes sense.

So that’s probably it , because people were so complete before , there was less of searching for more and more people to complete themselves , so marriages lasted longer, even the polygamous ones!!! Rats that’s tough, so going by Jesse’s ( Ethan Hawkes’ theory) it means that unless we get the world population down to pre historic times the chances of finding the one composite Mr Right is going to be a little difficult , Note: I said difficult NOT impossible!!!